Happy New Year!
To everyone, and I mean everyone… Wishing you a wonderful new year, showered with good health, laughter, creativity and abundance of all that brings you peace and contentment.
To those of you who have suffered any sort of abuse….may you see yourself as wonderful and know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that YOU ARE DEARLY LOVED!!!!!!!!!!!
Many blessings always,
Dawn
January 3rd, 2006 at 4:32 am
hi dawn, wow i have so many questions i wanna ask and don’t know where to start.
first, i’d like to say how attractive i think you are and how great you look, considering what you’ve been through and you have beatiful eyes. ok that’s out of the way. first question. i saw at the end of wonderland that eddie was released from prison, how?? if you know. well, i don’t want to bore you. so, i’ll ask the others in a few days.
p.s. happy 06 and sorry if the compliment made you uncomfortable. bye sweetie
January 3rd, 2006 at 10:49 am
Dawn,
Happy New Year to you too…..I hope this year brings you lots of happiness and I wish you luck with everything you do. And I can’t wait until the book comes out I am excited about reading it. Best Of Luck to you and I wish you all the happiness in the world you deserve it.
Jenny
January 5th, 2006 at 12:45 pm
Happy New Year to you! I hope things are going well with you & your family.. I can’t wait until the book comes out!
take care!
January 5th, 2006 at 8:27 pm
Hi Dawn,
Happy New Year to you as well.Hope all is good with you and yours.Things are a little rough right now for me,but i think thats the way it will always go,a struggle for good and better.Well i can’t wait for the book,but obviously i can because i’m still here.Once again i’m glad you’re here.
serena
January 6th, 2006 at 9:11 pm
Hey Dawn, Happy New Year to you and your family. I hope the coming year brings you peace and tranquility. You are an incredible inspiration to all woman who have suffered abuse from those we have loved. I can’t wait to read your book. Take Care, Angeline
January 7th, 2006 at 12:04 am
Happy New Year to you and your family. Cant wait to read the book.
January 11th, 2006 at 12:06 am
Dawn, Best wishes for 2006, and can’t wait for the book. Your story is oddly compelling to me, having been not much older than you in that time, and involved in many similar things. What a different time is was! I have watched your movie many times and cant wait to read your take on it all. All good thoughts. Lezlie
January 19th, 2006 at 6:02 pm
Dear Dawn, Happy New Year to you also. I know I haven’t posted on here in a while, but I read the new posts all the time. I’m writing this as I just don’t know what to do or think anymore. I have a close friend who’s in an abusive relationship. She leaves him, goes back, leaves him, goes back and then leaves but still stays in contact with him. I’ve pleaded with her that she’s risking her life. I had my Dad murdered by my Mother in an 1 time act of domestic violence. My Mother has no previous history of violence, but a history of untreated mental illness. I know from reading about murder and domestic violence that ANY man who is physically violent and doesn’t get help is always at risk to kill his wife, girlfriend, etc. This friend has been saying what’s wrong with me: my counselor I’m wasting my money on, I don’t go to a support group enough, I can’t take constructive criticism, and I get too upset about negative things and life and talk about them too much. I’ve also been told that my fiance and I “have our problems also”. I pointed out that my fiance has never laid a hand on me. I got no answer to that 1. I just don’t know what to think or do anymore. I care about this friend, but over time I’m feeling more and more hurt by these remarks. Can you, Dawn, or anyone on here who’s been through this advise me? I was also told I’m not making progress. Never mind that my fiance and my family and other friends have noted my progress. It’s like no matter what I’m doing to help myself it’s not enough, not good enough or not working. Since the murder of my Dad (and my Grandma also) this is what I’ve done: gone to therapy for many years, am still going to get the help I still need. I work on the Internet on a message board with others who are surviving friends and family of murder victims and write the other members who are new to the board, etc.; do volunteer work such as sending in parole petitions and other petitions to help murder and other crime victims; went to AA and worked all 12 steps and just hit 6 years sober last October; have had a piece published in a book for surviving family and friends of murder victims; have started going to a new support group at a church to finalize fixing what problems I have from the murders; joined a church and will be going to this support group when it starts over there and am working on the spiritual issues that I neglected before. And I started going to this church and this group to resolve a specific problem between my fiance and I. My fiance has stated that I’m making progress faster than ever before and he’s very happy about this. I think I’ve worked very, very hard on not letting this destroy me and I’ll keep working on it until I’m done. I hate for this to be de-valued. I feel I’m being projected on by someone who is doing nothing about her problems and isn’t doing any kind of work at all to help other people. I was also told I can do better on my own. I pointed out that this doesn’t work, that we have to connect with others to get the most help and healing. Of course I got no answer to that either. This hurts so badly to be attacked in this way. I don’t even know if I want to stay friends with this person or not. I’ve noticed that before this latest round of remarks started that she’s been pulling away from me, making less contact, etc., so I knew something was wrong, but had no idea what I’d done or not done. If you, Dawn, or anyone on here can advise me, please help with some advice. Thanks in advance.
January 21st, 2006 at 1:40 pm
Laura,
Thankfully I have never been in the kind of situations that you have been, but here is my view nevertheless. Let’s see. You have endured the senseless murder of your Dad and Grandma, been an alcoholic and are now 6 years sober, have a fiance who appears to love you, reach out to help others in similar situations, and you continue to seek help when needed.
I would say that you are a success. You are succeeding in moving ahead in life, and making sure that you don’t go backwards. YOU ARE A WINNER.
You surely seem to be very concerned about your friend and that is an admirable trait. But you also seem to overly attach credibility to her criticisms. DO NOT LET HER SUCCEED IN DRAGGING YOU DOWN. Misery loves company; you do not need that in your life.
Her criticisms of you are “the failure talking”. Your progress and your life are “the success talking”. I think you can figure which voice is worth listening to.
Movie Fan
January 22nd, 2006 at 2:35 pm
Movie Fan I couldn’t have said it better myself!!!
Laura you keep up the good work. When your friend is ready for help be there for her, but don’t let her bring you down and destroy all of your hard work. You have endured alot and made wonderful progress. You can’t help those who are not ready to be helped.
Marie Trevino
March 5th, 2006 at 9:02 am
Dear Movie Fan and Marie, sorry for my late reply. THANK YOU to both of you! I ended up severing the “friendship”. I told her to her face that many of the things said were lies. Of course I got no good answer on that face to face. Then, the lies started up again, and the accusations against what I do, what I don’t do, etc., etc. The last straw was telling me that I spend too much time online on message boards and how I handle my voice mail and phone calls. A lot of my time online is spent on a board for survivors of murder victims. The fact that ANYONE would judge what a grown woman is doing in her own home on her own computer is outrageous. I pointed out that I always returned her calls, or if I didn’t that day, I would explain why right after. Of course I got no answer of substance to that, as the GOAL is to knock me down on everything I do or don’t do, and try to control my life. Jealousy and projection are very obvious things. Some of this was happening in my workplace, and I told my boss and she intervened, as it wasn’t stopping. I was never called in for any wrongdoing, and was told I wasn’t in the wrong. Of course, now I get the silent treatment, such as you’d get from a small CHILD. Not speaking to me at all, and looking DOWN at the furniture when I pass by, which proves that cowardice is alive and well. Or I receive looks of HATE when eye contact is made. I refuse to act like this, and show basic courtesy, which is how it should be in the workplace, no matter if we’re friends with our co-workers or not. I’m not letting her bring me down, and will keep doing what I’m doing. I know now she was ONCE a friend, but hasn’t been 1 for a while now, and wasn’t in some ways to begin with. I’m better off with the sickness out of my life, and am working on making new friends who don’t cut me down constantly and project their problems on me, instead of facing the truth about themselves. I’ll make it through this. To me, this is kind of “small potatoes” anyway, compared to living through the murders in my family. I made it through that; I’ll make it through this. Thanks again to both of you for your caring and support.