Comments on: My Voice to Help Throwaway Teen Abuse… My Presentation http://www.dawn-schiller.com/2009/05/17/throwaway-teen-abuse-preventionmy-presentation/ babblings! Wed, 14 Jul 2010 18:44:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Dawn http://www.dawn-schiller.com/2009/05/17/throwaway-teen-abuse-preventionmy-presentation/comment-page-1/#comment-7299 Dawn Mon, 29 Jun 2009 15:46:29 +0000 http://www.dawn-schiller.com/?p=158#comment-7299 Thank you Marty! That is wonderful news. You rock! Dawn Thank you Marty!

That is wonderful news. You rock!

Dawn

]]> By: marty http://www.dawn-schiller.com/2009/05/17/throwaway-teen-abuse-preventionmy-presentation/comment-page-1/#comment-7286 marty Mon, 29 Jun 2009 04:53:57 +0000 http://www.dawn-schiller.com/?p=158#comment-7286 Hi Dawn, I'm glad to see you back. I've been following you on Twitter. I was one of those teens. And in hopes to "balance" my life, as an adult I became "that" person that I wished I had in my life as a child and young adult. I had two girls that seemed to attract troubled teens as friends because they knew they could count on me and their Dad to help. I have some success stories and I have some sad stories, but I made a difference. If I leave life better than it was when I entered it, I made a difference. Thank you for making a difference. Hi Dawn,
I’m glad to see you back. I’ve been following you on Twitter. I was one of those teens. And in hopes to “balance” my life, as an adult I became “that” person that I wished I had in my life as a child and young adult. I had two girls that seemed to attract troubled teens as friends because they knew they could count on me and their Dad to help. I have some success stories and I have some sad stories, but I made a difference. If I leave life better than it was when I entered it, I made a difference. Thank you for making a difference.

]]> By: Reenie http://www.dawn-schiller.com/2009/05/17/throwaway-teen-abuse-preventionmy-presentation/comment-page-1/#comment-6344 Reenie Fri, 29 May 2009 03:50:22 +0000 http://www.dawn-schiller.com/?p=158#comment-6344 Hi Dawn Good to see you posting again. Good luck with your presentation, I'm sure it will be a great success. You are an inspiration. I have a couple of questions: How is Sharon? I hope she is well. And also, if this isn't too personal (forgive me if it is), are you still married? I have read the archives and I don't see any mention of your husband in quite some time. Again, sorry if I've asked a question you'd rather not answer. Just curious. Keep on updating us on your life. Know that there are so many of us "out here" who are rooting for you to succeed in life and who respect you for being a survivor and for overcoming some pretty fantastic circumstances. Thanks for reading, Reenie Hi Dawn

Good to see you posting again. Good luck with your presentation, I’m sure it will be a great success. You are an inspiration.

I have a couple of questions: How is Sharon? I hope she is well. And also, if this isn’t too personal (forgive me if it is), are you still married? I have read the archives and I don’t see any mention of your husband in quite some time. Again, sorry if I’ve asked a question you’d rather not answer. Just curious.

Keep on updating us on your life. Know that there are so many of us “out here” who are rooting for you to succeed in life and who respect you for being a survivor and for overcoming some pretty fantastic circumstances.

Thanks for reading,
Reenie

]]> By: Kristen http://www.dawn-schiller.com/2009/05/17/throwaway-teen-abuse-preventionmy-presentation/comment-page-1/#comment-5956 Kristen Tue, 19 May 2009 20:20:36 +0000 http://www.dawn-schiller.com/?p=158#comment-5956 As a person who also grew up in the 70s, I can remember feeling that there was little or no connection between parents and teenagers. My own mom and dad were overwhelmed by their issues that left little time and energy for their children. I have spoken to friends in recent years who felt the same way that I did, neglected, discarded and ignored. It's a wonder we made it through. In retrospect, I believe it wasn't entirely our parents' fault, as they carried out what they had learned and we made the best of it. We had no choice. In my mind, parental neglect was partly a generational mode of coping, a sign of the times. The generation gap that was prevalent in the 60s and 70s and defines the disconnection between parents and teenagers, is almost non-existent today. As teenagers, many of us who had too much idle time on our hands and were unsupervised, became involved in drugs and sadly, sometimes with devastating effects. We drank alcohol and drove, we hitchhiked, we took many risks, and we didn't wear seat belts. It was a far less restrictive but potentially dangerous time. That would include attitudes and sexual practices that wouldn't be permissible or acceptable in today's society. Through education and enlightened eyes, we are evolving into more caring and concerned people as our sensitivity to the needs and feelings of others is more acute. Your personal story and relationship with John Holmes is tragic, yet also intriguing. As an outsider looking in, there seems to be a common thread linking how you have described your childhood, to John Holmes’ own background. Based upon what is known about John Holmes, it is interesting that he too was a "throw-away” teen and a victim of violence and neglect in his home. He joined the army at a young age to escape the wrath of his step-father and family dysfunction. Perhaps he lacked the strength and capacity to do what was required in order to make good choices. Love is a precarious, individual and complicated emotion, but somewhere in the middle of the turmoil that you experienced in your unusual relationship it seemed that the two of you shared a kind of mutual love. I write that with sincerity. Good things evolve from challenging situations. Your advocacy for throw-away teen abuse prevention is a commendable and admirable project and one that is deserving of great respect. I wish you luck and happiness. As a person who also grew up in the 70s, I can remember feeling that there was little or no connection between parents and teenagers. My own mom and dad were overwhelmed by their issues that left little time and energy for their children. I have spoken to friends in recent years who felt the same way that I did, neglected, discarded and ignored. It’s a wonder we made it through. In retrospect, I believe it wasn’t entirely our parents’ fault, as they carried out what they had learned and we made the best of it. We had no choice. In my mind, parental neglect was partly a generational mode of coping, a sign of the times. The generation gap that was prevalent in the 60s and 70s and defines the disconnection between parents and teenagers, is almost non-existent today. As teenagers, many of us who had too much idle time on our hands and were unsupervised, became involved in drugs and sadly, sometimes with devastating effects. We drank alcohol and drove, we hitchhiked, we took many risks, and we didn’t wear seat belts. It was a far less restrictive but potentially dangerous time. That would include attitudes and sexual practices that wouldn’t be permissible or acceptable in today’s society. Through education and enlightened eyes, we are evolving into more caring and concerned people as our sensitivity to the needs and feelings of others is more acute.

Your personal story and relationship with John Holmes is tragic, yet also intriguing. As an outsider looking in, there seems to be a common thread linking how you have described your childhood, to John Holmes’ own background. Based upon what is known about John Holmes, it is interesting that he too was a “throw-away” teen and a victim of violence and neglect in his home. He joined the army at a young age to escape the wrath of his step-father and family dysfunction. Perhaps he lacked the strength and capacity to do what was required in order to make good choices. Love is a precarious, individual and complicated emotion, but somewhere in the middle of the turmoil that you experienced in your unusual relationship it seemed that the two of you shared a kind of mutual love. I write that with sincerity.

Good things evolve from challenging situations. Your advocacy for throw-away teen abuse prevention is a commendable and admirable project and one that is deserving of great respect. I wish you luck and happiness.

]]> By: maria http://www.dawn-schiller.com/2009/05/17/throwaway-teen-abuse-preventionmy-presentation/comment-page-1/#comment-5943 maria Tue, 19 May 2009 14:38:46 +0000 http://www.dawn-schiller.com/?p=158#comment-5943 i apologize for my previous comment, please delete it! i just spoke because i have a tongue in my mouth, although i didn't mean to offend your sensibilities in any way with it i realize now how my inapt comment is superficial and simplistic, my thoughts are evidently of little substance, sorry! actually i highly respect you and your deep commitment to abuse prevention, and surely your presentation will be a success useful to increase the awareness of the problem. maybe i simply prefer to think at your complex relationship with John Holmes highlighting the true feeling of love which shines trough it, instead of the serious abuses you suffered in consequence of Holmes' drug addiction. maybe i simply would have preferred another ending, with Dawn Schiller and John Holmes who lived happily ever after. i apologize for my previous comment, please delete it! i just spoke because i have a tongue in my mouth, although i didn’t mean to offend your sensibilities in any way with it i realize now how my inapt comment is superficial and simplistic, my thoughts are evidently of little substance, sorry! actually i highly respect you and your deep commitment to abuse prevention, and surely your presentation will be a success useful to increase the awareness of the problem. maybe i simply prefer to think at your complex relationship with John Holmes highlighting the true feeling of love which shines trough it, instead of the serious abuses you suffered in consequence of Holmes’ drug addiction.
maybe i simply would have preferred another ending, with Dawn Schiller and John Holmes who lived happily ever after.

]]> By: Keely http://www.dawn-schiller.com/2009/05/17/throwaway-teen-abuse-preventionmy-presentation/comment-page-1/#comment-5925 Keely Mon, 18 May 2009 20:43:52 +0000 http://www.dawn-schiller.com/?p=158#comment-5925 Hi, my name is Keely and I've seen your blog/website b/c when i first saw the movie, wonderland, i was very curious about the character Kate Bosworth played. Then when I found out who you were I was so amazed by your story and all that you've endured. I think its wonderful how you say you've been sober from drugs and alcohol b/c my brother did drugs and alcohol and he got help from it and hes so devoted to the A'A and so spiritual. He overcame abuse by another person as well when he was a kid so hes been through so much and has become this amazing person. hes also the godfather to our niece. i've learned to never drink or do drugs from him and i've also been able to understand a lot about sobriety and a lot of things which is probably why i want to study psychology in college. Well, anyway, I was kind of wondering and curious about what your parents felt about your relationship with John Holmes. I mean nowadays people would freak if their kids were being with a guy who was thirty,you know. I'm not meaning to be judgmental at all but I was just wondering b/c thats considered illegal these days but I guess the laws were a whole lot different back then and it was a different time. I'm sorry for asking about it b/c i'm sure you answer a lot of questions about it and you don't have to answer it or anything, b/c i understand b/c honestly thats what we need in this world,understanding. Well, Please write back and thanks for accepting my friend request and sending me that invite. With great respect, Keely Hi, my name is Keely and I’ve seen your blog/website b/c when i first saw the movie, wonderland, i was very curious about the character Kate Bosworth played. Then when I found out who you were I was so amazed by your story and all that you’ve endured. I think its wonderful how you say you’ve been sober from drugs and alcohol b/c my brother did drugs and alcohol and he got help from it and hes so devoted to the A’A and so spiritual. He overcame abuse by another person as well when he was a kid so hes been through so much and has become this amazing person. hes also the godfather to our niece. i’ve learned to never drink or do drugs from him and i’ve also been able to understand a lot about sobriety and a lot of things which is probably why i want to study psychology in college. Well, anyway, I was kind of wondering and curious about what your parents felt about your relationship with John Holmes. I mean nowadays people would freak if their kids were being with a guy who was thirty,you know. I’m not meaning to be judgmental at all but I was just wondering b/c thats considered illegal these days but I guess the laws were a whole lot different back then and it was a different time. I’m sorry for asking about it b/c i’m sure you answer a lot of questions about it and you don’t have to answer it or anything, b/c i understand b/c honestly thats what we need in this world,understanding. Well, Please write back and thanks for accepting my friend request and sending me that invite. With great respect, Keely

]]> By: maria http://www.dawn-schiller.com/2009/05/17/throwaway-teen-abuse-preventionmy-presentation/comment-page-1/#comment-5919 maria Mon, 18 May 2009 14:06:07 +0000 http://www.dawn-schiller.com/?p=158#comment-5919 sorry to disturb, i'm completely stranger to the story but why do you refer to yourself as a kid and to John Holmes as a porn star instead of a man? it seems unfair to me, it was the man who fell in love with you, his job wasn't involved, and the difference of age is not that great, really, think of gig young and you will find a very pathological difference of age, but not this one, and however i read on sager's piece that even him regretted your too young age, didn't he? and however he couldn't stop falling in love with you, Dawn, just you, and he could have all the women on planet earth and on all planets of all galaxies and more, but he loved your innocent eyes, he found in them his own lost innocence, he didn't like his job, he probably despised it and himself too for doing that job, and you were his anchor, his lifeline, but unfortunately his weight, although so light, was too heavy for you, and he sank anyway dragging you along for a while, but i feel you loved him as much as he loved you, and you can discern the bad things caused only by his cruel addiction, and i hope you wrote your book with him also at your side: surely John wherever he may be will be the first reader of your memories, yours and his. sorry to disturb, i’m completely stranger to the story but why do you refer to yourself as a kid and to John Holmes as a porn star instead of a man? it seems unfair to me, it was the man who fell in love with you, his job wasn’t involved, and the difference of age is not that great, really, think of gig young and you will find a very pathological difference of age, but not this one, and however i read on sager’s piece that even him regretted your too young age, didn’t he? and however he couldn’t stop falling in love with you, Dawn, just you, and he could have all the women on planet earth and on all planets of all galaxies and more, but he loved your innocent eyes, he found in them his own lost innocence, he didn’t like his job, he probably despised it and himself too for doing that job, and you were his anchor, his lifeline, but unfortunately his weight, although so light, was too heavy for you, and he sank anyway dragging you along for a while, but i feel you loved him as much as he loved you, and you can discern the bad things caused only by his cruel addiction, and i hope you wrote your book with him also at your side: surely John wherever he may be will be the first reader of your memories, yours and his.

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